Slowing down and appreciating the people and the events that we get to encounter every day allows us to be more gracious with those around us. Last week we discussed how our attention span has dwindled to a mere 8 seconds. When we live with such short attention, we begin to desire and demand quick responses.
If something (or someone) takes longer than the speed at which we are now conditioned, we may start to experience feelings of resentment, blaming as if something (or someone) was purposely wronging us. “How dare my partner finish chewing to answer my question when I deserve to know now!” It sounds a little silly but we probably all have felt this way once or twice before.
When we stop to think and to feel and to experience, we may realise why situations occur. We have a chance to consider the “why” before we react. This approach helps us to internalize and take responsibility in the situation. We have a chance to learn and grow by digging deep and rooting ourselves.
Instead of getting frustrated that your partner took too long to reply after taking a bite, thank him or her for being polite and not speaking with a mouthful. Instead of getting angry that your spouse returned home 2 hours late and dinner is now cold, thank him or her for working hard to be able to put food on the table. Moment by moment, day by day, we will replace judgment with gratitude.
The world may look a bit rosier when we choose to live graciously.
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